Embracing the Hair on Your Head and Not the Hair in the Ad!!!!

You will have many people who aren't happy with the hair that is on their head. Many will wish that they had looser curls and coils, some will wish their hair weren't so thin, some will wish that when they do a braid out it looked like that picture we all see everyday in some of these hair groups. Well we can wish it but in actuality we have, what we were given so JUST BE!!!

We have always been told that one thing is better than the other.. Light skin vs dark skin, tall vs short, thin vs thick, curvy vs thin, one spectrum of hair vs the other. When some of us grew up we were told that the hair on our head was too "NAPPY" so parents opted to get relaxers put in. We see commercials that didn't represent who we were/are as strong black little girls. We were taught that we weren't enough in the eyes of the people around us. Even now when we have returned back to natural we will hear subtle hints towards our hair. "So you're going out with your hair like that", "Do you plan on combing your hair at any point", "When was the last time you had your hair straightened", or  my favorite one yet " why did you cut your beautiful hair off to get that". and so many more subtle insults or nicenastys with a smile.. Like really!!!!!!!!!! NO I mean Really!!!!!! 

We have to remember that our hair is an extension of who we are. We are queens and Kings. Our birthright tells us so. We should be walking with our heads held high and not with our chin buried into our chest, because our hair isn't what we were taught hair should look like.  We see people on tv advertising natural hair products but not really knowing if that's really their hair. We see a lot of entertainers and tv people showing pictures on Instagram of their BIG CHOPS but then the next they have long flowing weaves. Now we are seeing more and more commercials with the "Natural head Women" but it is either one side of the spectrum or the other. We see all of this and say well at least we are being seen.. But we have always been seen. Just ignored. We get happy because we feel like we aren't alone in the Natural Hair Community. But have we really ever been alone. We can go into any of these hair groups and talk about an issue we are having and I can tell you so many others have been having that same problem or issue. You have a product you want to try, you can ask around someone has tried it. But remember not everything will work on everyone. We get upset when we scour youtube vids and try these styles and they don't come out like the person on the vids hair. We comb through magazines and the hair styles are wonderfully styled and we try it and it falls flat. And we get down on ourselves but never stop to ask "How many times did the person try it before they filmed it?" 

Don't beat yourself up because you hair doesn't look like the next persons hair. Because deep down you never know who is beating themselves up wishing they had your hair. Just be the person you are hair and all. Just be the girl who rocks that huge afro that blocks other people out of pictures. Just be the girl who can rock a fierce wash n go or a wash, shake, n go.. Just Be the girl who when you see people whispering you smile... Because like it or not someone noticed your crown. Whether it is picked out, loc'd up, coiled out, braided out, wrapped up, braided up and so much more. We can do so much more to our hair than you may realize. Don't think of the negative comments that people make, they have no control over our hair or life unless you give it to them. But hey don't keep reading my random ramblings. It is time to go forth and learn to accept that your hair is beautiful. And you are BEAUTIFUL.. And if no one else told you today remember I did.. 

Until Next Time..